When Mother’s Day is hard for you, how can you get through it? Who can you turn to? First and foremost let me assure you that you’re definitely not alone. Many people do not have a perfect relationship with their Mother for numerous reasons.
- Estranged Relationship?
- Mother has Passed Away?
- Gave you up for Adoption?
If you are in one of the scenarios above I’m so very sorry and I will pray for you. Just know you are loved and not forgotten. When I think of Mother’s Day, besides my own Mama, of course, I think of Mary, the Mother of Jesus. She was chosen to be the Mother of the Savior of the World! Wow!
That had to be very special for Mother’s Day for Mary even though she was very young! I can not begin to fathom, how Mary must have felt when the Angel Gabriel, announced she would be carrying, the savior of the world, can you, sweet friends?
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CELEBRATING OUR MOTHER’S WHEN MOTHER’S DAY IS HARD
In the sixth month, the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth. Luke 1:26
To a virgin betrothed to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David. And the virgin’s name was Mary. Luke 1:27
And he came to her and said, Greetings, O favored one, the Lord is with you! Luke 1:28
But she was greatly troubled at the saying and tried to discern what sort of greeting this might be. Luke 1:29
And the angel said to her, Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God. Luke 1:30
And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus. Luke 1:31
He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. And the Lord God will give to him the throne of his father David. Luke 1:32
And he will reign over the house of Jacob forever, and of his kingdom, there will be no end. Luke 1:33
And Mary said to the angel, How will this be since I am a virgin? Luke 1:34
And the angel answered her, The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; therefore the child to be born will be called holy—the Son of God. Luke 1:35
And behold, your relative Elizabeth in her old age has also conceived a son, and this is the sixth month with her who was called barren. Luke 1:36
For nothing will be impossible with God. Luke 1:37
I know that no one can come close in comparison to Mary, Mother of Jesus, but in our eyes, our Mother is pretty awesome too! We recently celebrated Mother’s Day and I wanted to do a post dedicated to All Mom’s.
Mother’s deserve to be recognized and shown how important they are to us. I didn’t get to be with my Mother because I live in North Carolina and she lives in Kentucky.
However, I did send her a gift and a card, sent her a text and called, although I know that’s not the same as being there in person.
It’s important to me that she knows how much I appreciate and love her and never want that to ever be taken for granted.
My Mama didn’t have it easy raising my sister and I because my parents were divorced when I was around eight or so.
I love my Daddy dearly but in my younger years, he didn’t give my Mama the support she needed to raise us. I can remember my Mama doing a fast-food job cleaning a church on the side and little odds and ends just trying to supply our daily needs.
In my hometown jobs are scarce especially without a good education but my Mama did the best she could. I know without a doubt she would go to bed hungry just so our bellies were full.
My Sister and I didn’t have the name brand clothes most other kids had but we were provided for and loved. That’s what is most important.
WHEN MOTHER’S DAY IS HARD…THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN MY MOTHER AND I
Like with most relationships once you reach a certain age “AND THINK YOU KNOW IT ALL,” my Mama and I didn’t always see eye to eye.
When I decided I wanted to marry my first husband that’s when our relationship severed for many years, unfortunately.
My Mama knew beforehand what kind of life I would live because she said God warned her through a dream exactly what would take place.
Needless to say, I didn’t listen and she was right. For almost fifteen years I lived in a very abusive situation and my relationship with my Mama went south.
I can now say thanks be to God that our relationship is restored and I absolutely regret that I let it get to the point it was. All I can say is Thank You God for Grace!
IT IS TOUGH TO CELEBRATE WHEN MOTHER’S DAY IS HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE
I have listed five below why Mother’s Day may not be a good memory and see if these speak to heart and soul. Maybe you or your mother has:
- Passed away and it brings up memories that make you both happy and sad.
- Hooked on drugs or alcohol and doesn’t view you as an important part of their life.
- Abandoned you and you have no idea who or where she is and you feel less than.
- Gave you up for adoption so you could have a better life than the one you would now have.
- Decided abortion was your only option and now you live with the shame of that decision.
FRIENDS, WHEN MOTHER’S DAY IS HARD, REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT ALONE
God is always there for you no matter what! Whether the memories are sad, happy, emotional, regret, or whatever the case may be.
I can’t say that I understand however you view Mother’s Day but I have a Savior who knows all things and will hold you in the shelter of his loving arms. Just call on him and he will be there for you in whatever way you need.
I’m gonna put myself on the chopping block. I have made way too many wrong decisions where my own children are concerned. I have “messed up” royally! Trust me on that!
I only wanted my children to have a better life than I had myself and wanted to keep them from making the same mistakes I did.
My Son has been on the wrong path for quite some time now and I blame myself. If only I “did this’ or “done that” and not allowed “this” or “that” our Mother/Son relationship wouldn’t be where it is today.
I keep the “Prodigal Son” story close, in my mind and heart! There is Hope!
What to Do When Mother’s Day is Hard
Being a Mom is a huge responsibility. I have found out the hard way sometimes you have to allow your kids to make the wrong decisions so they will learn to make the right one. You can’t enable them when you know it’s wrong to do so because it makes the situation worse.
I would give anything to be able to go back and have a “do-over” but life doesn’t work that way. We can only do the best we know how at that time and continue moving forward.
Will we mess up? Yes!
Can we receive Grace and Forgiveness? Yes!
It is never too late, to make amends, with those you love.
When Mother’s Day is hard due to the loss of a child
Sweet friends, losing a child is something my family has personally experienced. I would never want anyone to have to go through this kind of heartbreaking loss. Tyler is our first grandchild we lost to SIDS at 4 1/2 months old.
That being said, as hard as a loss of a child is for my entire family, I can’t begin to imagine the conflicting emotions, my daughter still goes through on Mother’s Day and every day in all honesty.
Yes, she has another child but you never get over the loss of a baby, you just learn how to cope with it. My prayer for you is if you are coping with a loss of your child this Mother’s Days turn to Jesus to comfort you because he’s the only one who can.
In Closing on When Mother’s Day is Hard Who Can You Lean On?
Relationships take work, whether that’s Husband and Wife, Brother and Sister, or Mother and Child. We must be willing to work at it to make it healthy.
I know many cases where too much is in the way to reconcile in our own eyes are we feel hope is lost. But with God all things are possible! Keep the Faith.
We can trust God wholeheartedly and place our hope in Him for all things. Don’t take “Angie’s” word alone for this. Read God’s word on what does the bible say about hope
Happy Mother’s Day to all and I Pray yours was a Blessed and Happy one! Check out our resource and freebies page to find links that may help you. We also have freebies from friends to offer encouragement as well.
I have a couple of posts dedicated to the families of two cancer patients that I loved dearly that are both no longer suffering. I know both of these will be a great source of encouragement for you. Please go check them out.