As a born again follower of Jesus Christ, leaving this world behind, is something we look forward to isn’t it Friends? There is NO better reward we can EVER receive! Bonus for our families is leaving behind a legacy of Treasured Memories.
However, as much as we long to be in Heaven, with our Lord and Savior, leaving our loved ones behind is hard.
We don’t want them to be sad and mourn us.
We want them to be happy, and keep living their lives.
I can think of ONE thing, ONE word, we can leave them with, that they will cherish FOREVER!!
When I take my final breath on this earth, I hope I’ve left on the imprint, on those who know and love me.
I want them to be able to say, “When I think of Angie she sure made my days brighter by______?”
I have so many loved ones, that’s passed away, that’s changed my life FOREVER!
They’ve made me the person I am today.
Do I have moments of sadness when I think of them? Yes!
Does a certain memory bring a smile to my face? Absolutely!
I am more than certain that you have many bittersweet memories too.
I want to share with you, a very recent passing of a loved one, that has affected me greatly.
This individual isn’t a blood relative, but I considered him “part of my family!”
Let me introduce my friend…Michael
See Y’all, this “special friend” of mine needs an introduction. He has one of those personalities, that lights up a room. He has such an award-winning smile and infectious laughter, you couldn’t NOT be drawn to him.
I Promise, you would’ve been drawn to him, like a bee to honey also.
Michael loved Woodworking
Let me tell you what he told me recently. He’d been working on different crafts and was giving me details of these projects.
I could tell he was feeling rundown, and I asked him, “why are you so tired? Have you not been sleeping well?”
His precious wife said..”Tell her! Tell her WHY you’re so worn out!”
I gave him the “look” You know the one we women can give sometimes right?
My “look” stopped dead in its tracks when he looked at me, with tear-filled eyes and said, “Angie, I’M AFRAID I WON’T GET IT DONE IN TIME!” I was ready to cry a river at that statement.
Reality of Life
My friend knew his life on earth was on borrowed time. God Bless him!
He was running himself in the ground because he wanted to leave his grandchildren, a piece of himself behind. Something they could hold, in their hands, made by his hands.
That’s the kind of man he was.
I want to share another memory, that I will remember, the rest of my days. I would hope my family would think of doing something like this also.
The family knew that their loved one was getting much sicker, and didn’t have much time left with him. They wanted a memory too, just a different kind.
Michael and his wife had NO IDEA what they’d arranged. Let me set the stage for you.
This LARGE family had a “FAMILY PHOTO SHOOT” set up. ALL OF THEM!
I don’t know how they pulled it off, without them knowing, what they had planned!
I have trouble getting a photo, with just my grandchildren together, let alone a huge family.
They wore color-coordinated clothing. They took group shots, individual shots, you name it.
These ones of kind pictures will be something these sons, daughters, grandchildren, etc…will FOREVER cherish.
At one time they told me the photographer, had tears streaming down their face so badly, that they couldn’t see through the lens, and had to stop and clean it before proceeding.
Can you envision how special this memory will be for them?
When they showed me these pictures, I lost it!
I ain’t gonna lie. I WAS ONE BIG OLE HOT MESS! When I viewed them, I will give you One Word to describe them.
I cried like a blubbering baby! I kid you not. Did you cry? Be Honest? It’s Ok if you did! I did! I still do when the memory comes to mind.
Fought a good Fight
My friend fought hard but recently went home, to be with his Lord and Savior.
This leaves me both sad and happy. Sad, that I will not see, his award-winning smile, and hear his infectious laughter, but happy he’s no longer sick and has eternal rest.
Make a difference
Being able to call Michael my friend is a blessing. The memories I have with him has and will FOREVER change my life!
When you and I are going through trials of various kinds, people watch what we say, and how we handle them. It shows them what we’re truly made of.
I hope the way I handle mine, makes a difference in someone’s life, just as Michael’s did mine. He was sick a long time, but you’d never known it, until right towards the end.
He still had that award-winning smile and infectious laughter that I will NEVER forget.
If you have read my about me page, you know I work with Oncology Patients.
The hardest part of my job is watching the suffering that my patients go through every day.
I have a confession to make. I can tell you countless times, after finishing the patient’s blood work….etc…That I have cried out to God!
I know life is in the palm of his hands, and he has a reason for ALL things, it’s just difficult to watch sometimes,
I have prayed and pleaded with God, that if the individual is saved and ready for Heaven, to PLEASE end their pain and suffering!! It just doesn’t seem fair!
However, God has not promised us, we would have a pain-free life. He did promise us, he’d be with us, in the midst of them.
Friends, none of us are promised our next breath, let alone tomorrow. Treasure the memories you have, with your loved ones, while you have them with you.
Let’s leave memories…No regrets!
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I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
This post is dedicated to Michael