Guilt. It may be a short five-letter word, but does it EVER wreak havoc on our lives. Do you wrestle with guilt, as much as I do? Overcoming guilt is a hard task, y’all! Especially when it comes, to the horrible mistakes, that you’ve made in life, that have affected others as well. Surely I’m not the only one who wrestles with overcoming guilt, am I? Oh and don’t forget that Satan knows EXACTLY when to remind you of said mistakes. It makes you feel like you have this huge weight bearing down on you that consumes you doesn’t it? Nevertheless, we must know how to overcome the guilt of past sins.
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For my iniquities have gone over my head; like a heavy burden, they are too heavy for me. Psalms 38:4
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11
Let’s Discuss the Issue of Guilt First and Foremost
I have so much guilt that floods my thoughts at times that it makes it difficult to close my eyes and go to sleep. Then I feel guilty for even allowing these thoughts to consume me. Why do we find it so hard to forgive ourselves when Christ freely forgives us. I want to be completely transparent and confess to you some of the guilt of sins that plagues me before I go into “How” we can overcome guilt.
Overcoming Guilt for not being a wife, my husband deserves:
I know that’s crazy talk but I can’t help it at times. I feel like my health issues are keeping us from doing the things we used to do together. Any kind of motion makes me sick with my Meniere’s which leaves out amusement parks that we enjoyed doing together. I can’t put my head underwater without my left ear filling up with exceeded pressure which leaves out swimming and going in the ocean.
Another challenge of overcoming guilt: I stay tired ALL the time!
As soon as I get in from work, I’m so drained, that I don’t want to go anywhere, and do anything afterward. We don’t even want to discuss curvy roads. It’s hard with all my Auto-Immune Disorders. I feel like I should receive the WORST WIFE EVER AWARD at times!
Overcoming Guilt for not being a better Mama, that my children deserved
If you have watched my God at Work video you already know that I was in an abusive marriage for almost 15 years. I blame myself for not leaving that situation sooner than I did. I wasn’t the only one affected by it. My children were too. They witnessed way more violence than any child should have. I let my fear keep me chained and bound down to the point that I thought I was protecting my children by staying, rather than leaving.
In the long run, it did the opposite. My daughter to this day gets nervous around crowds and wants to stay isolated. My son has turned to alcohol and drugs which has left him making horrible decisions. He won’t even talk to me at the moment because I won’t give him money, or whatever he’s calling for because I know what he will do with it and I can’t enable him. WORST MAMA EVER AWARD at times!
Overcoming Guilt for not being a better daughter and sister, that my Mama, brothers, and sister deserves:
When I decided to marry my first husband my family was NOT happy and that’s putting it mildly. My Mama came into my room one night and said if I decided to marry him she would not be able to look at me and told me I had to leave her home. She gave me the reason why of course. God gave her a “vision” of what my life was going to be. I was crushed! I thought I was a good daughter. To still be a virgin at my age was unheard of. Did I understand my Mama’s point at this particular time? Absolutely NOT!
I went through with the marriage even though none of my immediate family was there. Needless to say, there were many years of having a strained relationship with my family. We didn’t have much of a relationship for quite some time. Of course, Mama was right and I should have listened! WORST DAUGHTER/SISTER AWARD AT TIMES!
Overcoming Guilt for not being a better friend than my friends deserve:
I don’t get to spend as much time as I would like with my friends anymore. I feel like I’m letting them down and I’m just a huge disappointment to them. The same issues that I have with my health apply here as well. Did I mention that I don’t call them like hardly EVER? That’s just wrong. The problem is I hate talking on the phone.
Since 2010, when my health started declining I have lost major hearing. It’s enough that I avoid the phone like it has the plague. People get tired of having to repeat what they say over and over. I also have to ask if people have pets due to my allergies before going anywhere. EVERYONE has pets nowadays. I feel like I’m nothing more than a burden. In my heart, I know better than that but try telling that to this thick-headed brain is another story. I have even found myself comparing myself to their other friends. How WRONG is that? WORST FRIEND EVER AWARD AT TIMES!
Now, what are some specific steps on how to overcome guilt?
Step One on How to overcome the guilt of past sins
When you’re starting to feel guilt rear it’s ugly head confess whatever the issue is to God then take it to Him in prayer. As born again believers in Jesus Christ I truly feel that we need the reminder of God’s forgiveness and the assurance He’s truly forgiven us, don’t you?
For when I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long, For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was dried up as by the heat of summer. Selah. I acknowledged my sin to you, and I did not cover my iniquity; I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,” and you forgave the iniquity of my sin. Selah. Psalms 32:3-5
STEP TWO ON HOW TO OVERCOME the GUILT of past sins
Pray and ask God to help you see anything in your life seen or unseen that needs to be confessed and changed. For this, to work we must be totally honest with God. In all honesty, He knows everything about us anyway! He just wants longs for His children to come before Him in confession.
Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalms 139: 23-24
STEP THREE ON HOW TO OVERCOME THE GUILT OF PAST SINS
As born again believers and followers of Christ it’s crucial to remember that God has promised to forgive our sins and made this possible through his one and only beloved son. Our redemption is paid in full by the bloodshed on the Rugged Roman Cross of Calvary. Jesus said, “IT IS FINISHED!” This is a promise you and I can place complete trust in today and everyday friend.
There is therefore now, NO CONDEMNATION for those who are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
You forgave the iniquity of your people; you covered all their sin. Selah. Psalms 85:2
For you, O Lord, are good and forgiving, abounding in steadfast love to all who call upon you. Psalm 86:5
STEP FOUR ON HOW TO OVERCOME THE GUILT OF PAST SINS
When guilt still plagues us, even after we’ve confessed and forsaken your sins, then those feelings are just Satan trying to keep you bound and shackled. Remember that God’s promises are true and he has forgiven us and through Christ, we are justified in His eyes.
The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger forever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us. Psalms 103:8-12
STEP FIVE ON HOW TO OVERCOME THE GUILT OF PAST SINS
STOP listening and believing Satan’s FALSE accusations. Stomp him and his lies beneath your feet! Pray and ask God to FREE him from your mind and living rent-free in your head! Pray for God to restore your joy that’s found in Him and him alone and give you freedom from guilt that’s plaguing you.
Blessed is the one whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered. Blessed is the man against whom the Lord counts no iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no deceit. For when I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night, your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was dried up as by the heat of summer. Selah. I acknowledged my sin to you, and I did not cover my iniquity; I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord,” and you forgave the iniquity of my sin. Selah. Therefore let everyone who is godly offer prayer to you at a time when you may be found; surely in the rush of great waters, they shall not reach him. Psalms 32: 1-6
You are a hiding place for me; preserve me from trouble, and surround me with shouts of deliverance. Selah. I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you. Be not like a horse or a mule, without understanding, which must be curbed with bit and bridle, or it will not stay near you. Many are the sorrows of the wicked, but steadfast love surrounds the one who trusts in the Lord. Be glad in the Lord, and rejoice, O righteous, and shout for joy, all you upright in heart! Psalms 32: 7-11
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In Closing on How to overcome the guilt of past sins
Remember sweet friend, when we receive Christ into our hearts…he remembers our sins no more! The guilt and shame of our sins are cast as far as the east to the west. Why do we find it so hard to forgive ourselves when Christ freely forgives us. All the guilt we wrestle with so much isn’t our burden to carry anymore once we give our lives to Christ.
We MUST do the following:
Lay our burdens at the foot of the cross and leave them there.
We are NOT meant to do the following:
- Keep ourselves shackled to guilt, mistakes etc….that aren’t ours to carry anymore.
- Try and play God and keep picking up what we’ve given to God!
- We are to trust Jesus at his word. Condemnation No More for you and for me
- God is a GOOD GOOD FATHER.
- God isn’t going to keep reminding us over and over again of all our sins.
We beat OURSELves up enough
See my Friends, when we come to God, with a surrendered heart, and present ourselves openly to him, we receive his forgiveness. God doesn’t bring it up again, nor does he write it down, so to speak, to throw it in our face later. He forgives it, and it’s gone.
Aren’t those the best words you can ever hear Y’all? Our slate is wiped clean due to the righteousness of Jesus Christ. When guilt tries to rear its ugly head in our minds, we need to remind ourselves, that we made mistakes. And we will continue to do so, this side of eternity.
We are human, and we are flawed, and we are far from Perfect!
The best part is, we will still be loved unconditionally by God. Our guilt can actually help us, where we are now. It reminds us of where we were, and how far we have come. It gives us a new eternal perspective. We pick back up dust ourselves off and continue to be stronger.
So the next time, those unwanted memories, start floating through your mind, remember that NOTHING is wasted in your life. It’s a lesson that you have learned. You can use your poor choice’s, in an inspiring way. You can use them, to help others, overcome similar issues. Be the one that is willing, to open themselves up, and show this broken world, that they too can have hope, and that hope is Jesus.
I asked my sweet husband Mike, to read this, before I put it on my blog, as I do with all of them. He is my proofreader you see and my biggest supporter I want to receive his confirmation that I don’t sound like some crazy person. Mike in his loving, gentle and kind way says to me...”It is good but are you going to take your own advice on overcoming guilt?”Ouch! So this is my reminder too!