Fear caused by Abuse in a relationship can leave you with destructive feelings that seem like they won’t ever go away at times no matter how long you’ve been out of the situation. To begin with, it can leave you with emotions such as persistent panic, unrelenting dread, tenacious terror, tremors that can shake your entire being, and feelings of worthlessness.
Actually, when I tell someone I was in an abusive situation for almost fifteen years or share My Personal Testimony people look at me like I’m Crazy. As a result, I can also tell you beforehand the next words that will proceed from their lips. It’s a given!
“If my husband ever lays a hand on me, I’d be gone so quick he wouldn’t know what hit him!” or “You allowed him to treat You that way,?” “What is wrong with YOU?” or “Why didn’t YOU just leave?”
Friends, trust me I get it, nor do I blame anyone for making these statements and asking these questions because I said the exact same words too…Until I found myself in that position.
Fear Caused by Abuse may leave you wondering if you will ever feel normal and have Peace in your life again.
I want to be honest with you in the following 2 ways.
- I’d love to be able to tell you once you leave the abusive situation everything’s going to sunshine and rainbows but that wouldn’t be the truth.
- Even if it’s been many years since leaving your abuser you may still feel shattered and broken at times or at least I do.
To tell the truth, when these unwanted thoughts invade my mind I have to remind myself who and where My Identity is found in…Jesus Christ…NOT the Victim or frightened shell of the individual I use to be.
I knew I wanted to write another post in this particular Category. Abuse from a spouse is near and dear to my heart.
Why? I want to be an advocate and help support others who are or have been in any type of abusive situations.
But God…My Two Favorite Words…
I am a born again Child of almighty God and greater is HE who is in ME than HE who is in the World. Fear has to Flee!
Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. 1 John 4:4
What is more, Satan clearly doesn’t want me to do this post because it’s been one battle after another being fought tooth and nail.
Unfortunately, Satan knows this is a weakness of mine and as soon as God placed this topic on my heart the walls starting crumbling around me.
Let’s focus on Physical Abuse and it’s definition first:
Physical abuse is defined as any deliberate act, behavior or physical force by an individual or individuals against someone which causes them bodily harm, injury, trauma or puts their life in danger.
- Restrain a person through force.
- Block you from leaving a room
- Threatening Gestures
- Pulling Hair
However, I can only speak for myself but any of these would fall under the Fear Definition:
An unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger.
Secondly, God Hates Abuse
And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. Malachi 2:15
When someone walks up behind me my automatic reaction is to flinch in Fear caused by Abuse.
In other words, you should see some of the looks I get because they’re rather priceless. Above all else, I try to joke it off but those who know my background “get it.”
For instance, the fact I have major hearing loss doesn’t help the matter one bit. You will understand better what I mean by that if you’ll read Eternal Perspective: A Better Perspective.
Sometimes my co-workers don’t understand what makes me…ME. All of us Phlebotomists have our own lab space. I’m usually facing a patient or inputting information in the computer.
As a rule, when a co-worker walks up behind me and starts speaking 9 times out of 10 I jump out of my skin due to Fear because I don’t hear them walk in.
Talking about feeling like your a nutcase sometimes. As a result, I’m sure they probably really think that and then some.
The fact of the matter is I hate having that reaction. Now the question remains…How do I defeat that feeling?
God’s word can and will defeat that Fear caused by Abuse!
The One Thing that will help YOU above anyone or anything else is God’s Word. It has your answer to any problem or solution…THAT INCLUDES FEAR
I have the Scriptures below attached in my Secondary Navigation for easy Access. It is listed under Bible Verses About…Dropdown.
Bible Verses About Fear
But He said to them, “Why are you so fearful? How is it that you have no faith?” Mark 4:40
Do not fear, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. Luke 12:32
For I, the Lord your God will hold your right hand, Saying to you, ‘Fear not, I will help you. Isaiah 41:13
But whoever listens to me will dwell safely, And will be secure, without fear of evil. Proverbs 1:33
And do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. But rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell. Matthew 10:28
When you lie down, you will not be afraid; Yes, you will lie down and your sleep will be sweet. Proverbs 3:24
Do not be afraid of sudden terror, Nor of trouble from the wicked when it comes. Proverbs 3:25
For the Lord will be your confidence, And will keep your foot from being caught. Proverbs 3:26
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7
It shall come to pass in the day the Lord gives you rest from your sorrow, and from your fear and the hard bondage in which you were made to serve. Isaiah 14:3
For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, And His ears are open to their prayers, But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.” 1 Peter 3:12
And who is he who will harm you if you become followers of what is good? 1 Peter 3:13
But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you are blessed. “And do not be afraid of their threats, nor be troubled. 1 Peter 3:14
In righteousness you shall be established; You shall be far from oppression, for you shall not fear; And from terror, for it shall not come near you. Isaiah 54:14
For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” Romans 8:15
So we may boldly say: “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me? Hebrews 13:6
God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1
The fear of man brings a snare, But whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe. Proverbs 29:25
I, even I, am He who comforts you. Who are you that you should be afraid Of a man who will die, And of the son of a man who will be made like grass? Isaiah 51:12
He shall cover you with His feathers, And under His wings, you shall take refuge; His truth shall be your shield and buckler. Psalm 91:4
Choosing Faith over Fear
You shall not be afraid of the terror by night, Nor of the arrow that flies by day. Psalm 91:5
Nor of the pestilence that walks in darkness, Nor of the destruction that lays waste at noonday. Psalm 91:6
Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed; Neither be disgraced, for you will not be put to shame; For you will forget the shame of your youth, And will not remember the reproach of your widowhood anymore. Isaiah 54:4
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you. Isaiah 43:2
Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. John 14:27
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23:4
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Psalm 23:5
Have YOU experienced Fear caused by Abuse?
For your sake, I sincerely hope and Pray you have Not. I have a short E-book I’ve written that I would love for you to check out. I go a little deeper on what my life was like, how it’s made me the woman I am today, and how God’s grace seen me through it all.
Incidentally, for those who have, it may seem like the Overwhelming Fear and Panic will never go away but at the moment you feel Fear pressing down upon you…Remember God’s word can and most certainly Defeat that Fear! I have a resource page dealing with abuse available to give you the information you may need.