Losing a loved one can leave us questioning at times right? The pain associated with loss, more often than not, will make us withdraw from those around us and those we love. Even talking about loss is extremely uncomfortable at times, right?
However, that being said, it’s crucial not to keep your feelings to yourself. Most importantly, do NOT push God away at this time. Lean into the loving arms of your Heavenly Father to for comfort and above all else don’t isolate yourself. Trust me when I say I learned this lesson the hard way and I don’t this for you!
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Help Guide and Resources on Losing a Loved One
Losing a loved one has touched us all at one point or another. There’s no denying death is a fact of life as well. The thing to keep in the forefront of our minds is…if our loved ones are born again believers in Jesus Christ we will see them again one day very soon. For now, I have made a help guide for you on losing a loved one to make the process easier.
Blog Recommendations for Coping with losing a loved one
Heather @ Lessons from Home
Randy @ Eternal Perspective Ministries
Steve @ Living by Faith
Susan @ Proverbs 31 Ministries
One of the most difficult times in my life was when we lost our first grandchild Tyler to SIDS at Four and a month old. I would love for you to read his story The heartbreaking time I was mad at God
losing a loved one resources to Connect With
- Open to Hope
- Light a Candle
- Unspoken Grief
- Losing your Parents
- Wings of Grief
- Four Plus an Angel
- Stunned by Grief
- Heartache to Healing
- Grief Connect
- Survivors of Homicide Inc
- TAPS: Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors
Best help Guide: Resources on losing a loved one
Shattered – Surviving the Loss of a Child
Gary Roe: Snippet Below
Unthinkable. Unbelievable. Heartbreaking.
Whatever words we choose, they all fall far short of reality.
The loss of a child is a terrible thing.
How do we survive this? Can we?
Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child was written to help.
Sunshine After the Storm – A Survival Guide for Grieving Mothers
Various Authors: Snippet Below
When you’ve had a miscarriage, it often feels like your world completely ceases while everyone else’s world goes on. Losing a pregnancy, an infant, or a child is the worst thing that can happen to you as a mother.
When you’ve had a miscarriage, it often feels like your world completely ceases while everyone else’s world goes on. Losing a pregnancy, an infant, or a child is the worst thing that can happen to you as a mother. Your world is forever changed. Yet many people expect you to move on quickly, to get over it, to get back to normal.
You’ll never get back to normal, mama. You have to find a new normal. Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother is a unique book because it’s written by over 30 moms and a few dads who understand what you are going through right now.
The grief, the reality that life will never be the same for you again, and the torture of missing the milestones over the years – these are things that these authors know and understand. But they also know that with time comes healing, hope, and encouragement.
This book is meant to be the hug you need from other mamas who know exactly what you’re going through. Each author shares their experience and story, the lesson they learned, and their tips for helping you survive this time in your life.
The book includes all of their stories of loss, love, pain, grieving, support, forgiveness, and survival. It also includes a special interview with Sean Hanish, director of the incredible movie Return to Zero.
SIDS – The Risk Factors And How To Prevent It
Von Albesa: Snippet Below
All About Sudden Infant Death Syndrome And How To Spare Your Infant from it if it’s God’s Will first and foremost. SIDS is an intense condition. During your pre-birth care, you have to discover however much data as could be expected about the disorder, just as how to counteract it.
Sweet Sorrow – Finding Enduring Wholeness after Loss and Grief
Sherry Cormier: Snippet Below
Few of us know how to navigate the territory of traumatic loss successfully. Sweet Sorrow shows how we can respond and grow stronger from loss and suffering.
Written by a psychologist and certified bereavement trauma specialist Dr. Sherry Cormier, Sweet Sorrow chronicles the decade following the loss of her husband, father, mother, and only sibling.
God’s Healing for Life’s Losses – How to Find Hope When You’re Hurting
Robert W Kellman: Snippet Below
Subtitled “How to Find Hope When You’re Hurting,” the book provides a real, raw, honest, and hopeful conversation about suffering, loss, and grief from a Christian perspective.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand
Megan Devine: Snippet Below
This book provides a path to rethink our relationship with grief. It encourages readers to see their grief as a natural response to death and loss, rather than an aberrant condition needing transformation.
By shifting the focus from grief as a problem to be solved to an experience to be tended, we give the reader what we most want for ourselves: understanding, compassion, validation, and a way through the pain.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK shows readers how to live with skill and compassion during their grief, but it isn’t just a book for people in pain: this book is about making things better for everyone.
All of us are going to experience deep grief or loss at some point in our lives. All of us are going to know someone living great loss. Loss is a universal experience.
I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping, and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One
Brook Noel & Pamela Blair: Snippet Below
The grief book that just “gets it.” Whether you’re grieving the sudden loss of a loved one or helping someone else through their grief, I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye offers a comforting hand to help guide you through the grieving process, from the first few weeks to the longer-term emotional and physical effects.
It then reveals some of the myths of the grieving process and what really happens as you navigate through the pain. An exploration of unexpected death and its role in the cycle of life, I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye provides those people coping with grief with a rock-steady anchor from which to weather the storm of pain and begin to rebuild their lives.
Grief Walk: Experiencing God After the Loss of a Loved One (God and Grief
Gary Roe: Snippet Below
God meets us in our pain and embraces us. He journeys with us through emotional upheaval, mental confusion, physical distress, spiritual questioning, and relational changes. Jesus has personally experienced more pain, suffering, and grief than we can fathom. He knows. He gets it. He is the best grief companion imaginable.
Comfort for the Grieving Spouse’s Heart: Hope and Healing After Losing Your Partner
Gary Roe: Snippet Below
The loss of a life partner can be traumatic. Oblivious to our suffering, the world around us speeds on as if nothing happened. Stunned, shocked, sad, confused, and angry, we blink in disbelief. Our hearts are broken. Our souls shake.
Gary’s desire is to meet you in your grief and walk with you there. Composed of brief chapters, Comfort for the Grieving Spouse’s Heart is designed to be read one chapter per day, giving you bite-sized bits of comfort, encouragement, and healing over a period of time.
You do not have to read it this way, of course. We all grieve differently. Read in the way that is most natural for you.
Suicide Loss Resources
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Contact number 1-800-273-8255
Shattered: From Grief to Joy After My Son’s Suicide
Rebecca Tervo: Snippet Below
When Rebecca Tervo awoke on January 29, 2012, it seemed like just another lazy Sunday morning. What she didn’t realize was that her life and the life of her family had already been changed forever. Her 17-year-old son, Trevor, was already dead of suicide in an adjacent room, she just didn’t know it yet.
This book tells how Rebecca reacted to the event that changed everything for her and her family. It was uncharted territory for her, her husband, the community and the school.
It describes the unrelenting and nearly unbearable grief and loss. There were so many questions and so few answers. Why would Trevor do this? Where were the signs that Trevor had been depressed? Did someone else know something about Trevor’s pain? Why would such a bright young man choose this?
How would she go on? She had so many unanswered questions. How would she care for her other three children and her grief-stricken husband? How would her 20+ year marriage survive the biggest trial it had ever faced?
Aftermath: Picking Up the Pieces After a Suicide
Gary Roe: Snippet Below
Aftermath was written to…
* Connect with your heart in all the pain, grief, and confusion.
* Be a companion for you in this unwanted, heart-crushing process that has been thrust upon you.
* Be a source of comfort, perspective, healing, and peace.
* Provide practical tools to help you pick up the pieces and begin to rebuild your heart and life.
In Aftermath, you can discover how to…
* Be kind to yourself and patient with yourself during this incredibly hard time.
* Manage the racing thoughts and volatile emotions that come.
* Deal with other people and the unhelpful words and weird reactions that come your way.
* Navigate the tough spiritual issues and faith questions that confront your soul.
* Grieve in healthy ways that honor the one you lost, take your own heart seriously, and express kindness and
compassion to those around you.
* Abandon the notion of quick fixes, self-medicating relief, and the lying voice of addiction as a way out.
* Latch onto the truth that no one is beyond repair and that anyone can heal – including you.
* Use your grief as fuel for good and make this death count by living with more purpose and meaning than ever before.
* Save lives and become part of the solution to this raging suicide epidemic.
Dying to Be Free: A Healing Guide for Families after a Suicide
Jean Larch: Snippet Below
It seems there are many grief-worthy events in our lives this season. Those who have survived the loss of loved ones to suicide, an unexpected illness, violence, and deaths of despair offer guidance for these painful and confusing times.
Surviving the heartbreak of a loved one’s suicide – you don’t have to go through it alone. Authors Beverly Cobain and Jean Larch break through suicide’s silent stigma in Dying to Be Free, offering gentle advice for those left behind, so that healing can begin.
LOSING A LOVED ONE
Losing a loved one is painful especially when it’s a child. We are left with more questions than answers however, we are created for a single person which is to bring God glory and serve His purposes for our lives. I sincerely pray that you find comfort in the resources that I have given you and I will continue to add more so be sure to check back often,