GOD, I AM DOING MY BEST, TO TRY AND FIX THESE SITUATION’S!! I DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO! HELP ME FIX IT!! I don’t know about you sweet friends, but I’m the “fixer personality type.” I find myself in many circumstances shouting I Can’t Fix It, Lord!
And He is before all things, and in Him, all things consist. Colossians 1:17
The Fixer Personality Type
Friends, I say this all the time. I honestly feel God has given me too much compassion and heart for other people’s needs. Sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? Seriously though, this is me pouring my heart out to you. As Christians, we must model the same Love and Compassion as Jesus Christ has shown to others.
You’re probably agreeing with my statement and thinking… What are you getting at right? The problem is this…”I” want to “fix” the problems of those I come into contact with! That isn’t necessarily a bad thing but it can be when it consumes your energy NOT being able to “fix” the issues. That is where the problem is found.
Fixer Personality Type Issues: Examples of I Can’t Fix the ____:
- Financial needs of everyone I come in contact with.
- Drug and alcohol addiction’s of countless people.
- Salvation I desperately long to happen for my family and friends.
- Countless patients in my care of cancer and blood disorders.
- Someone not wanting a relationship with me.
It’s Hard to Be a Fixer Personality Type When I Do Not Have Enough Money
It’s so hard for me to see someone struggling with finances. Granted, I am far from being wealthy myself. But I see people every day that are just trying to meet daily needs such as food, utilities, job, and a way to get from point A to point B. It’s hard to NOT help if I’m able to do so! I have one of the most difficult jobs in my opinion. Chemotherapy isn’t cheap. When I see patients worrying about how they’re gonna pay for their care it really bothers me.
I read notes all the time that say they couldn’t pay their co-pay. They already have tough choices to make but when you see them juggling do I have my treatment and meds or do I pay my rent and groceries. It pulls on my heartstrings!
I WANT TO HELP ALL OF THEM!
My reality is I can’t. No matter how much I want to.
I Am Not Addicted
I’ve NEVER used a medication that hasn’t been prescribed to me first. Alcohol is something I haven’t tasted until I was in my mid-twenties and I don’t do it at all now. It has never been an issue for me. It doesn’t change your problems to me it makes them worse! Doing either of these things may get your minds off your problems while intoxicated but once it’s out of your system…Your issues are still there. They do NOT magically go away. How is that helping? However, I know many who can’t make it through a day without either. I have family members who struggle with this and can’t say what it’s like because I don’t know what it’s like to have that kind of struggle.
I see men and women lying on the streets carrying their only belongings on their backs and holding signs in their hands begging for something to eat. It’s hard for me to fathom that people will go without their basic needs to feed other habits. I also realize many find themselves in a hard place. They just want a helping hand in need of care. I WANT TO HELP ALL OF THEM! My reality is I can’t. No matter how much I want to.
My Fixer Personality Type: I Can’t Save their Soul
I have countless family and friends who do NOT have a personal relationship with my Lord and Savior and I want to walk up to them and shout WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!! I’ve heard the expression once you hit rock bottom the only way you have left is up. I find that a true statement IF you look up towards God! The truth is this friend we are NOT promised our next breath let alone tomorrow. Yet people live like they have all the time in the world.
They’ll say let me do this first then I will come to God. That’s a crutch. I want to see ALL my loved ones make it to Heaven. My problem is “I” try to “save” them. Newsflash Angie, You can NOT save other people. God alone can do that. So jump off the pedestal you’re on. My job is to plant the seed and let God do the saving. I want to share the gospel of Jesus Christ to others and convince them to open their hearts to receive God right there on the spot on my terms! My reality is I can’t do that. No matter how much I want to.
I’m Not Able To Force Love
I want to be a friend to everyone. We all want to be liked who doesn’t…right? The sad truth is we can’t force someone to like us. In many cases, you give and give yourself and do NOT receive anything back. You go out of your way to be nice to others and you receive a cold shoulder in return. I can remember in school the times I wanted to be that “popular girl” but I was to shy to come out of my shell.
Now that I make known that I’m a born-again follower of Jesus Christ you’d think I had the plague. Non-followers tend to run the other way thinking you’re out to “fix” them, and they don’t see an issue with their lifestyle. I believe the real problem is we make them uncomfortable. They start feeling convictions in their own life, therefore push us away. They don’t understand that we want them to feel the joy of knowing God personally. I WANT EVERYONE TO LIKE ME, SO THEY CAN SEE JESUS CHRIST IN ME, AND COME TO KNOW HIM! My reality is not everyone will. No matter how much I want them to.
The Hard Truth for the Fixer Personality Type: Only God Can Fix It
Friends in ALL the things I wrote about can you tell me how many “I” can control and “fix” in my own strength? That would be a BIG ZERO! Sure I can begin with the best intentions. God knows my heart and my motives, but it wouldn’t be enough. The truth is I do NOT compare with what God can do. Only God can “fix” people’s circumstances and change the heart of his people “if” only they’d let him. He can break the chains and set them free in ALL things. It doesn’t matter how big or small.
Verses To Keep In Mind If You Are a Fixer Personality Type
Great is our Lord, and mighty in power; His understanding is infinite. Psalm 147:5
But Jesus looked at them and said to them, With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. Matthew 19:26
I know that You can do everything And that no purpose of Yours can be withheld from You. Job 42:2
May we remember when things are spinning out of control we know who is in control and will “fix” things in his timing, not ours…God!
That doesn’t mean we aren’t able to help those in need around us we just need to know, “we” can’t “fix” it all…That job is too big for you and I so give it to the one who can “fix” it…Jesus Christ. We can place our hope in God wholeheartedly that he will “fix it.” Don’t take “Angie’s” word alone for this. Read God’s word on what does the bible say about hope?
The first video demonstrates how the Holy Spirit can set you free from all things! Only God can “fix” it, Not You or I! These young adults do an amazing job and its changing lives. The second video is a powerful one also. Whatever you face…Come to the well.
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