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When it comes to sin we want to have it both ways, don’t we? Do you ever wonder if all sins are equal? Does God forgive all sins? What is considered an unforgivable sin? Does everyone deserve to receive God’s grace and mercy? Let’s dive in!
As Christians, we want God to forgive our sins but the bigger question is do we want God to forgive all sins? What about all sins of another individual we consider is a far greater sin than our own?
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Why We can’t HAVE IT BOTH WAYS
We had a guest pastor preach not too long ago and it stepped on more than likely every single individual in the congregation. I’ve also attached the video of the sermon towards the end of this post.
If you walked out of this sermon not being under conviction, can you say…Houston, we have a problem! The following verse puts everything into perspective rather quickly, doesn’t it?
For whoever keeps the whole law but fails in one point has become guilty of all of it. James 2:10
The Pastor asked the following question:
If you became a born-again believer at a young age or grew up in Church do you think it makes it harder to appreciate God’s grace compared to if you became born again a follower of Jesus Christ, in much later age?
He suggested we can take God’s grace and forgiveness for granted much too often. Would you think that’s a true statement also? I agree with His statement 100%.
If all sins are equal why can’t we have it both ways?
I often say you can’t straddle the fence. You’ll have to excuse my Kentucky slang. I will elaborate on what I mean by this. In my personal opinion, you can’t have one foot in the world and one in the Church. You can’t have it both ways.
I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! Revelation 3:15
So, because you are lukewarm and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth. Revelation 3:16
For you say, I am rich, I have prospered, and I need nothing, not realizing that you are wretched, pitiable, poor, blind, and naked. Revelation 3:17
The more common phrase I’ve heard is you can’t live for the world (satan) Monday through Saturday and you’ll be good to go to Heaven by living right on Sunday. As the most well-known phrase states, (You can’t have your cake and eat it too).
In all honesty, however, many people believe these phrases. As the old song goes everyone wants to go to heaven, but nobody want to die. Just because you attend Church on Sunday does not guarantee you a heavenly reward.
As Christians, we want God’s grace and mercy when we sin but we want God’s judgment on the sins of others, don’t we? Is this attitude lining up with what God’s word says? No, it does not!
Reflect and remember all sins before you accepted Christ as Lord and Savior
So, that being said do you remember all sins God has forgiven you for? This also includes all sins you thought were secret. FYI, all sins may be hidden from man however, nothing is hidden from God. We must keep in mind how we lived our lives apart from Christ.
This in and of itself should be a reminder for you and I to change our attitudes towards how non-Christians live their lives right?
We are forgiven for all sins, past, present, and future because in Christ he has redeemed us and set us free from them.
Granted our lifestyle compared to another lifestyle may be something we would never consider. However, in God’s eyes, ALL SINS are filthy rags in his sight regardless!
Do you agree?
We have all become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous deeds are like a polluted garment. We all fade like a leaf, and our iniquities, like the wind, take us away. Isaiah 64:6
Now, I don’t know about you but there are countless things I would love to turn around and do-over. Not only this, but I shouldn’t have received God’s forgiveness.
That being said, I know without a doubt God has forgiven me once I repented and asked for his forgiveness. However, there are things I allowed to take place that I knew were wrong and I have to live with that.
We can’t have it both ways because God’s word says so
Even though I have received God’s grace and mercy in this I feel someone else should NOT. That is so wrong of me!
Answer the following questions:
- By your actions and attitudes, who do you consider, as “too big a sinner” to able to receive, the gift of grace, that God extends?
- Why is it a contradiction, to think someone doesn’t deserve God’s mercy?
- How are you going to extend, the same grace to others, that you have received, from Jesus Christ?
Why we can’t have it both ways? BY GRACE THROUGH FAITH
For the longest time, I felt my first husband doesn’t deserve God’s grace. He abused me physically, verbally, and emotionally for almost fifteen years. I certainly did not want to extend him grace. No way! You know when the Holy Spirit, is convicting your heart.
I’m just thinking really Lord?
I can not do it! Look at all he made me endure! All the suffering, isolation, and hurt! I even attempted suicide, because I felt, it was my only way to stop the pain!
Why we can’t have it both ways? GRACE IS FOR EVERYONE
You mean to tell me if I want to receive your grace, then I must extend him grace?
Softly spoken in my spirit…..YES!!
Now I just feel sadness for him because he’s living apart from God. Now, my Prayer is that he will fall, to his knees in repentance, and ask for God’s grace and mercy.
I haven’t seen or spoken to him in a very long time but I have told him…I forgive you! Trust me, it didn’t happen overnight. It took a long time. In all honesty, it took me way longer than I care to admit.
WE WANT TO HAVE IT BOTH WAYS, DON’T WE?
We would rather hang on to…That’s not fair God! Think of how you would answer the following questions?
- What do you most complain about, or get angered by? How does this reveal your “fairness/entitlement” way of viewing issues?
- Whom do you compare yourself to? Does it involve pride or envy?
- Whom do you gossip about, because you resent their success? Are you begrudging God’s generosity towards them, by blessing or not punishing them?
God’s Grace and Mercy: We Can’t have it both ways
Consider the following accusers. Be honest…Do you want to have it both ways as far as God showing the same grace and mercy? In all honesty, in my spirit, I struggle the most in this area. Forgiveness for all sins, Lord? All sins such as these?
- A pedophile who molest our children.
- A rapist that brutally harms another’s body.
- An abuser who repeatedly destroys the spirit from someone.
- Sex trafficking ring who prey on our young for money.
- A murderer who never gets punished for taking a loved one’s life.
There are just a few. Trust me when I say my list can go on and on for all sins I feel shouldn’t receive grace and mercy on.
The brutal truth on have it both ways
- It doesn’t matter what “I think” is “right” and “wrong” but what God says is “right” and “wrong!”
- I don’t get to pick and choose who “I think” “should” or “shouldn’t” receive the gift of grace! That is left to God, and him alone!
- I have to stop thinking “my sin” isn’t as bad as “their sin!” All sins are Sin…Period!
As much as we’d like for God, to not extend grace to____? You can fill in who or what you want. The truth is, that the grace we have received is the same grace that God offers to ALL.
Keep in mind we can’t have it both ways. So Yes, this includes everyone! Even the ones we do not necessarily feel are worthy of receiving it.
If we want God’s grace we have to extend grace. We can’t have it both ways sweet friend when it comes it all sins.
what is the unforgivable sin according to the bible
“Blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven.”
Therefore I tell you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven people, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven. Matthew 12:31
Bible verses about how we can’t have it both ways on grace and mercy, towards all sins.
Now may our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God our Father, who loved us and gave us eternal comfort and good hope through grace, comfort your hearts and establish them in every good work and word. 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
And you were dead in the trespasses and sins. Ephesians 2:1
In which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience. Ephesians 2:2
Among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. Ephesians 2:3
And you, who once were alienated and hostile in mind, doing evil deeds. Colossians 1:21
We has now reconciled in his body of flesh by his death, in order to present you holy and blameless and above reproach before him. Colossians 1:22
If indeed you continue in the faith, stable and steadfast, not shifting from the hope of the gospel that you heard, which has been proclaimed in all creation under heaven, and of which I, Paul, became a minister. Colossians 1:23
And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 2 Corinthians 12:9
I HOPE THIS HELPS on why we CAN’T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS?
If we want to receive God’s grace and forgiveness in our lives for all sins we’ve committed we must be willing, to extend the same grace given to us regardless of the circumstance.
Also, remember this…In God’s eyes, it doesn’t matter…If I’m guilty of stealing candy, and another person is guilty, of being a pedophile, we are both worthy of receiving God’s grace, “IF” we have a repentant heart, and ask God’s forgiveness, God will extend it to both!
I used my Church pulpit curriculum, for the majority of this post, because the questions they want us to answer reveals what’s in our hearts and that brings conviction, repentance, forgiveness, and grace.
Extend grace for all sins that have been committed towards you. If you’ve been withholding grace God will withhold His.
Here is the video of the sermon that was preached. May it convict your heart too!