There are six things which the Lord hates, Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood, A heart that devises wicked plans, Feet that run rapidly to evil, A false witness who utters lies, And one who spreads strife among brothers. (Proverbs 6:16-19).
But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. (Matthew 12:36).
Beloved, ALL of us come into contact, on this topic every single day, especially at our workplace. You know what I’m referring to already don’t you? You may come across a few people gathered together whispering, and before you know it, self wants to “HEAR” what’s being said.
Why is it so hard for us, to just turn around and walk away? Why can’t we just work more diligently, to separate ourselves from it altogether?
Now, I can vision what’s already taking place as you read this. You’re shaking your head, turning a blind eye, and tuning a deaf ear, shouting loudly…NOT ME!!!. I do NOT do that!
Now, I Love you, but I can almost guarantee, that you most definitely do. We all do. We may not mean to, but much to often, it ends up that way. I will be the first one to admit, that I am far from perfect, and I don’t claim that I am.
I let my tongue slip just like everyone else. What we must do is own up to it! For the most part, I keep to myself at work, and I stay in my lab bay. You do what works for you, to separate yourself from it!
I will give you better example. Let’s say your either having lunch among fellow co-workers, or shopping with friends. During your discussions, a name will “pop up” and questions start forming in your minds, about mentioned person. Do you stay silent?
This is Truth Friends! An evildoer listens to wicked lips, and a liar gives his ear to a mischievous tongue. (Proverbs 17:4).
Once the name of a person is mentioned, next line may sound like this, “Did you hear what she or he said?” “Did you see what she or he did?” “Well I heard this or I heard that!” “You MUST tell me what’s going on!” “Well, I suppose it wont hurt, as long as it stays between us!”
Are you feeling convicted yet beloved?
He that goeth about as a talebearer revealeth secrets, therefore meddle not with him that flattereth with his lips. (Proverbs 20:19).
What’s even worse, is gossip among Christians. Example, “I wonder where brother or sister so and so have been?” “Why are they not a Church?” “They sure let the offering dish pass them by?” “Why our so many attendees leaving our Church?” “Why aren’t they using a certain Bible?”
I believe you get my point by now
See beloved. What may start out as good intentions on our part, can quickly become much more than we intended. What happens is we can quickly find ourselves drawn into the conversation, and before you know it, our mouth starts running as well.
It’s not in a good way either. Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. (Ephesians 4:29).
My dear Friends, gossip doesn’t just involve talking, it also involves LISTENING to what’s being said as well. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels, they go down to the inmost parts. Like a coating of silver dross on earthenware, are fervent lips with an evil heart.
Enemies disguise themselves with their lips, but in their hearts they harbor deceit. Though their speech is charming, do not believe them, for seven abominations fill their hearts. Their malice may be concealed by deception, but their wickedness will be exposed in the assembly. (Proverbs 26:22-26).
Words are so powerful
Once they are spoken they can not be taken back. What’s so discouraging, is our world today is so technological, that gossiping doesn’t have to be in person, or on the phone. It’s spread through TV, websites, social media, and magazines. Facebook has gotten to where it’s airing everyone’s dirty laundry anymore.
I have seen more quarreling, since the election and riots, I don’t enjoy it the way I use to. Our children are reading and seeing these posts, and the language, I don’t even want to go there. It might seem harmless, but it’s not. Flee from it and don’t engage in it. But avoid worldly and empty chatter, for it will lead to further ungodliness. (2 Timothy 2:16).
I did some research on different types of speech, and got the definitions to help us understand more about harmful words
- Gossip- Rumor or talk of a personal, sensational, or intimate nature.
- Rumor- Unverified information of uncertain origin usually spread by word of mouth or hearsay.
- Slander- The utterance of defamatory statements injurious to the reputation or well-being of a person. A malicious statement or report.
- Backbite- To speak spitefully or slanderously about (a person).
- Talebearer- A person who spreads malicious stories or gossip.
- Rail- To condemn or attack in bitter, harsh, or abusive language.
- Revile- To denounce with abusive language.
So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things. See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire! And the tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity, the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell. For every species of beasts and birds, of reptiles and creatures of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by the human race. But no one can tame the tongue, it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. (James 3:5-8).
Scriptures in God’s word to remind us, if we feel ourself weak and slipping
- As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him. (Titus 3:10).
- For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases. (Proverbs 26:20).
- Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, Him I will destroy, The one who has a haughty look and a proud heart, Him I will not endure. (Psalm 101:5).
- Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. (Ephesians 4:29).
- And the second, like it, is this, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other commandment greater than these. (Mark 12:31).
Gossip may seem harmless, but that’s not true. Whether you spread it or just listen in, you are hurting others but you are also hurting yourself. If you get the urge to “LISTEN IN OR CAN’T TAME THE TONGUE” pray and ask God for the courage to walk away, and separate yourself from it. Set a guard, O LORD, over my mouth, keep watch over the door of my lips! (Psalm 141:3).
I want to leave this post, with one final verse
Let your speech ALWAYS be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know, how you ought to answer each person. (Colossians 4:6).
Your Sister in Christ
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