Sweet Friend, If you are enduring ANY type of abuse in your life, hope and healing can be found. It doesn’t matter if it’s physical, emotional, verbal, or sexual abuse, I want you to grasp this reality. There are helpful ways to find healing from abuse, move forward, and have joy in your life again. I’ve been where you may find yourself now. In fact, one of the hardest areas for me was the despair and loneliness that I had no one in my “corner.” However, in all honesty, like myself, we are never alone and have someone walking beside us every step we take. His name is Jesus.
I recently heard Zack Williams’s new song titled “There Was Jesus” The Chorus is a beautiful reminder of the truth that no matter what’s going on in our lives, whether it be pain or suffering Jesus is there. When I was at the lowest point in my life I didn’t believe this was true. I was suffering big time and I thought Jesus left me to handle my abusive situation on my own. Looking back now, I can see God working and moving on my behalf. That being said, now I use that part of my life to help others in abusive situations find healing too.I am an Overcomer! I am a Survivor! My identity is in Christ, NOT the Victim! #abuse Click To Tweet
7 Helpful Ways to Find Healing from Abuse
If you’re a victim of Domestic Violence, there are numerous emotions you have to face and deal with before you can start the healing process. I want to be completely honest when I say healing doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to work through and it can be more than a little scary. In some ways, I still struggle today even though I haven’t been in that type of environment since 2000. Furthermore, certain days will spark a memory and I find myself becoming angry and have to pray and ask God to help me not hold that resentment. With this in mind, I’m going to give you 7 helpful ways to find healing from abuse.
Don’t Deny the Abuse Happened to You
For the longest time, my abuser made me feel like I “asked for” or “made him” physically hurt me. To put it another way, I walked on eggshells all the time because it was as if I was living with Dr. Jeckel and Mr. Hyde. And let’s not forgot about the “covering up” and making excuses for why “YOU” are the one to blame for their actions. In reality, is it’s their insecurities being forced on you.
Seek Counsel from Your Pastor, Christian Counselor, or Friend
It’s crucial to find someone you can completely trust because if you don’t all the feelings you’re trying to keep buried inside will lead you down a path to destruction. How do I know this? This is exactly what happened to me, sweet friend. I kept things bottled up to the point that I didn’t want to live anymore because I didn’t see any way another way of escaping the pain I was in. What did I do? I tried to take my own life by downing an entire bottle of narcotics. If it were not for God’s grace I would NOT be here sharing my story with you and how to find healing from abuse as well.
Let Go of Any Blame and Guilt
If you have been or are being abused this is not your fault. There is absolutely nothing that you did or didn’t do wrong to “make” them abuse you. I was forced into doing things that I wanted no part of and then was made to feel that I wanted it. I have lived years upon years over the guilt, shame, and remorse concerning this. If you can relate with this do yourself a favor by letting go and letting God carry the burden. You can’t beat yourself over past mistakes and choices that were coerced upon you.
See Yourself as God Sees You
God sees you as his beautiful beloved child so STOP believing the lies upon lies of negativity that spoken to you. I’m going to keep it real when I say this area is one of the hardest for me to achieve. My self-worth, confidence, and self-esteem were hammered with false words. That being said, try your best to start seeing YOU as God sees YOU. God sees YOU as beautiful, YOU are chosen and loved, YOU have hope in Christ to live an abundant life for His glory!
Use Your Testimony of Abuse to Help Others Through Theirs
Our personal testimony has the power to help others with a particular issue. When you use your pain and suffering to help others through their’s lives are changed. To start with when you’re a survivor of abuse YOU can relate on a level that no one else understands. All the feelings you experienced more likely than not, they are feeling them as well. You can share these feelings and let others know they’re not alone and it will get better in time. Remind others that abuse is NOT ok and abuse isn’t Love.
Forgive Your Abuser to Find Freedom
Now I realize this one will be by far the most challenging thing you will EVER do. Furthermore, when you forgive your abuser you’ll realize the prisoner you release is YOU! Sweet friend, in all honesty, I held a grudge for the longest time and the person it hurt the most was ME! I also realize you will think this is an impossible task to do. Trust me when I say I understand, and this will take time. However, what does God’s word say about forgiveness? God’s word says to forgive others for their trespasses against us if we want to receive forgiveness for our sins. It also says to pray for them who persecute you.When you able to forgive your abuser the prisoner you release is you. #abuse Click To Tweet
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15
But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. Matthew 5:44
Inspiring and Motivational Quotes on Helpful Ways to Find Healing from Abuse
“Instead of saying, ‘I’m damaged, I’m broken, I have trust issues.’ say ‘I’m healing, I’m rediscovering myself, I’m starting over.'”-Horacio Jones
“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”-Alice Walker
“Real confidence comes from knowing and accepting yourself – your strengths and your limitations – in contrast to depending on affirmation from others.”-Judith M. Bardwick
“Courage is like a muscle. We strengthen it with use.”-Ruth Gordon
“You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren’t alone.”
-Jeanne McElvaney, “Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children”
“By publicly speaking out against domestic violence, together we can challenge attitudes toward violence in the home and show that domestic violence is a crime and not merely unacceptable.”
“No woman has to be a victim of physical abuse. Women have to feel like they are not alone.”
Wise and Truthful Words on Abuse
“Psychological and emotional wellness is an ongoing process for everyone.”-C. Kennedy, Ómorphi
“Don’t judge yourself by what others did to you.”-C. Kennedy, Ómorphi
“Do not look for healing at the feet of those who broke you.”-Rupi Kaur, “Milk and Honey”
“From what I’ve been told, the scariest part of being part of a domestic abuse relationship is the idea that you cannot escape and you cannot get help, that feeling of being stuck.”-Kerry Washington
“Domestic violence is any behavior involving physical, psychological, emotional, sexual, or verbal abuse. It is any form of aggression intended to hurt, damage, or kill an intimate person.”-Asa Don Brown
In Closing on 7 Helpful Ways to Find Healing From Abuse
Rely on God and His promises to carry you through the painful times. To put it differently, memories may invade your mind and bring back old fears from time to time. Be ready for this. Satan’s job is to discourage believers from doubting God and His promises to His children. God’s word promises he will NEVER forsake you or leave you EVER! Know and cling to the fact that you are a child of God, chosen by him, NOT what your abuser taught you to believe about yourself!
Can I encourage you to listen to Zach Williams’s new song “There Was Jesus” because it spoke to my heart and spirit? Can I ask you to do this one thing for me? Close your eyes and focus intently on the words of this song. Will YOU trust me? In all the times you think no one is there for you…There Was Jesus